Bringing Out Your Best with Music: THESE WOUNDS WON'T SEEM TO HEAL ~ Pt1

My Immortal

This song addresses so many issues that deal with relationships gone bad. So for now I’m going share how I used this song w/ a client that I used to work with and share some ways she recovered her soul. She used this song to help her recall the relationship and the pain that she was suppressing.

Lori was in a very abusive relationship. She loved your boyfriend w/ all her heart and soul. She was there for him at the drop of a hat. Lori made many sacrifices for him, but she also made a lot of excuses for his behavior.

I remember her telling me her life was a living hell. She felt like a child. She was was tired of her life. Lori was exhausted. Now the relationship was over for at least 6 months and she still felt this way. Her heart was severely fractured. She was haunted.

Lori was continuing to punish herself b/c she had suppressed so much hurt caused by her boyfriend. She didn't know how to get her power back b/c she lost her identity. But her time has come to regain her life. She asked me to help her transform this part of her life and to turn her mess into a message.

Lori's Story

I can relate to this song so much. I can identify w/ the part of the video where it shows Amy lying down and she had the stuff wrapped around her hands. It reminded of what boxers wear under their glove. See, I was done fighting for something that wasn't going to change. I did love him, but I stopped loving myself. I pulled away from all the people that really loved me. My beliefs changed. My values changed just to survive. I thought if I changed he would change to. It only made him worse & all I was really doing was cosigning his dysfunction.

"These wounds won’t seem to heal"

Mike wanted me to focus on the one line in "My Immortal" (These wounds won’t seem to heal). I realized that I wasn't healing b/c I was very guarded and defensive. I needed to learn how to let my defenses down. I was always protecting myself from the next heart break. But this was keeping me sick and broken. It was eating away at me to the point to where I was losing my confidence, worth and courage. My health suffered to. I was dead inside. My soul was locked in chains and I needed to break free.

I had to take a look at all my mistakes and make changes. I had to stop blaming him. I knew he was sick. I accepted his pain as my own. When I took responsibility I felt my strength coming back. My power was slowly returning. I needed to forgive him and myself.

Dedicated to Evanescence