LOVE WHAT YOU DO

Remember your purpose is something you love to do, and it brings you joy. Your purpose is very important to you and it’s something that comes easily to you. Purpose is linked to your passions. Hebbel a German poet once said, “Nothing great in the world has ever been accomplished without passion.” Define your goals and focus on that. Try not to overwhelm yourself by taking on too many goals. Stay balanced.

Plan your future and focus on it. What you do today determines your tomorrow. Live in harmony with your life principles and standards. Take a look at your principles you live by. Are they working for you? What are you putting up with that you shouldn’t? What do you desire to become?

Realize that in some capacity you’re here to serve others. Use your gifts, talents and skills to bless others. “Some people choose not to donate their services because they believe that it somehow devalues them by "giving them away." In truth, there is nothing that demonstrates the value of your skills more than putting them to good use for a cause you believe in.” (Scott Allen) Don’t let self doubt and worry get in your way. 

Ask Yourself:

1. What is my plan? Do I have goals, action steps?
2. Do I need to talk with a career counselor or coach (resources)?
3. What are your most important goals for this year?
4. What are your major professional and personal goals for the next five years?

Michael. PhDc, MS, Certified Life Coach

THANK YOU FOR LOVING ME

To feel “Inspired” listen to:

• All about loving you
• Living on a Prayer

 “Love… What is love? Love is to love someone for who they are, who they were, and who they will be”   ~Chris Moore

I think what made Tommy and Gina’s relationship work was how they accepted and loved each other. They have the attitude of “there’s nothing that we can’t do together, all things is possible because of our love for each other.”

Tommy and Gina accepted each other for the good, the bad and the ugly.  For our relationship to be strong and withstand the storms of life we need to love each without conditions and judgment. We need to feel like we’re received regardless of our mistakes or failures.

To make your relationship work, try to …

1. Focus on each other’s positive qualities. Make a list and share it.
2. Use each other personality difference to your advantage
3. Remember that you might see problems differently, take time to listen and whatever you do don’t judge each other.
4. Remind yourself daily of all the good things your partner has done for you

Today’s Relationship Affirmation

I am grateful how I took some shots and fell from time to time… and Baby; you were there to pull me through… Thank you for loving me

Don't Stop Believing

She took the midnight train goin' anywhere...

We need to take time to really think about the legacy we want to leave. What do we want to be known for? How will we express ourselves in this life?

It took me a long time to figure out my calling. It was a process; a process that doesn’t stop. I’m still seeking because I’m not a settler. I want all that God has for me in this lifetime.  

If your goal is to get off the midnight train…

1. Get honest about what you really want
2. Figure out what is most important
3. Line up with your values
4. Pray and seek God Jer 29:11
5. Ask yourself: What do I really want to happen? What do I like about my life? What don’t I like about my life? Am I living out my true potential? Am I at my best, and if I’m not what to do I need to do?

~ Michael Barbarulo. PhDc, MS, Certified Life Coach

Will I be denied

My soul cries for deliverance… will I be denied Christ

I feel so guilty, I hate myself, I’ll never amount to anything…. I must admit I hear this more often than not. So many people struggle to like themselves. Others find it hard to forgive themselves.

Brad had a lot of anger in his soul. I think there was a time that every other word that comes out of his mouth is negative. He was miserable. He told me one day that he hated himself because of what he did 5 years ago. For years he would rehearse his loss and what he should have done. Because of this he hated himself. Brad for a long time thought he was a loss cause.

Like Brad we have to make a decision to heal and to learn how to receive God’s forgiveness and to learn how to love ourselves.

Today I want you to …

• Give yourself a break…
• Laugh at yourself… develop a different perspective over your mistakes or flaws
• Ask God for forgiveness and receive it…. It’s a choice
• Love yourself unconditionally just as God does
• Take a look at the people in your life to see if their building you up or tearing you down. The people that are tearing you down try find some solutions to help you deal with it.
• Pick one thing that you don’t accept about yourself and start loving that side of you

   

Taking Over Me

If you ever experience any kind of trauma it’s not always easy to forget it.Taking Over Me is a great song to use when your grieving and trying to heal from a bad experience. 

You don't remember me, but I remember you

I lie awake and try so hard not to think of you

But who can decide what they dream, and dream I do

When were remembering painful times or trauma - may it be abuse, loss or unhealthy relationships, we feel all the emotions and powerlessness we experienced  at the time of the trauma or loss. This is normal and believe it or not healing. If we want to heal and regain our power we need to feel and remember what happen to us.

We will experience all kinds of emotions when we decide to deal with our pain and hurt. When Lynn was working through trauma and loss she experienced: sadness, love, and closeness toward her abuser. This was normal b/c prior to the abuse she had a special relationship with him. She loved him dearly.Don't be supervised if you experience mixed emotions. If your remembering your loss or trauma just feel your feelings... There is no write way of doing this ...just open the flood gates. 

~ Michael PhDc, MS, Certified Life Coach

Just Older

 Note to Self

• Getting old doesn't really matter as long as you’re happy and living your dreams…. As long as you’re loving God… others and yourself…
• Don’t be obsessive about aging… Focus more on your personality and character
• Make memories and enjoy were you’re at ….
• Be the best you can be… at whatever age…
• Take care of your mind, body and spirit
• Make a lot of friends and keep them
• Be content… Learn to like the bed you’re sleeping… if you can’t change the sheets
• Mark Twain once said… “Age is an issue of mind over matter.  If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.”
• Don't hate what you see
• Don’t spend too much time in the mirror especially if you’re going to be negative… age is a fact… gravity wins out…
• No regrets… just lessons
• Love like you’ve never been hurt, dance like no one is watching

Where are You?

Why does my heart ache? Was she an angel? Was she real? Did it even happen? I keep checking... why? I'm here where are you? My heart feels young again? It's sad.... Desire is strong.... but he won't let up... he keeps reminding me.... Stop... What does this mean? I love her... I really do? But my heart won't stop... Please stop... it’s wrong and you know it. Leave me alone....why now? 

I don't know you ... Are you just a test? Are you safe? Was it supposed to happen? I feel broken … why? Make it stop … it hurts… I don’t know you but I’m worried about you… You have my heart… Why?

Your smile... your laugh... Have we meet before? It felt like I've known you for a long time.... Why did I fall so fast? So sudden? Your eyes... I wanted to rescue you....I want your pain... I felt you deep in my soul... Why?  I don't feel the same... Is it a crush? It can't? Stop? Go away? Call.... 

Will I see you again? I feel lonely.... but I'm not alone? Are you protecting me? Where you my wake up call? Were you there to show me my weakness..... Now I'm pretending.... Who am I? I thought he died!!! I wanted your pain!!! Why? I don't know you... I don't feel right that your gone away.... I don't feel you here... I looked at the seat... my heart bleed... you weren't there... how bad I wanted to stay with you. 

Your eyes looked through me... my soul quivered... Why? I felt needed... special... 

I looked for you.... I got nervous.... I didn't know why.... I tried to hide it.... I played it cool.... You had to leave early.... Will you contact me.... should you.... Cause I'm broken.... I don't feel right.... I will... You don't feel me here any more.. 

I hope I see you in my dreams... I can't breathe

My Reflection

I've been looking in the mirror for so long... that I've come to believe my soul is on the other side.

A picture can speak a thousand words… and portray our reality... 

Lisa felt flawed...she referred to herself as the "bad seed"... She was told that she was bad as a child and b/c of that she struggles to separate her behavior from her true self...  She spent most of her life trying to validate what see felt inside... She intentionally  made people dislike her.... By doing this she felt Loved... She's stuck with the words of her parents... She's stuck in time... B/c of this she's turned against herself...

Lisa kept adding layers on top of layers to her deceptions making it almost impossible to for people to see who she really was inside... Deep In her heart see desired to connect with life... She wanted to be loved for who she really was.... She didn't know her reflection...  She's been looking in the mirror for so long... that shes come to believe that her soul is on the other side. Life was smothering her... 

Return to Me Salvation

I tried to kill the pain… but only brought more…

The more we try to hide our pain the more we suffer… the more we bleed… Cry out to God and he will heal you and set you free from this pain and death…

Truth can be hurtful and uncomfortable... but it will cut out our disease... the lies... the betrayal.... the hurt.... Learn to endure the pain... face it and let it go... Without truth we lose ourselves... we become a different person so we can live in our lies. We betray ourselves. 

Penelope.... Had to stop fooling herself... she didn't have all the answers... and leaning on your her own understanding didn't work.... She moved out of her self-deception and got help.... She didn't know how deep her wounds were until she let God and others in... her bleeding eventually stopped...  

Self deception will keep you stuck… Think of ways you are deceiving yourself…. And stop… face the truth… your lies is what makes you bleed… Do you need help? If you  do reach out and ask for it. .. Truth is your inner experience… It’s not going to leave you… You can try to suffocate it but it won’t die… You can’t deny it’s subsistence…. If you want perspective... your truth will give it to you... rid yourself of your mask(s) and let God in....

~ Michael. PhDc, MS, Certified Life Strategy Coach

Broken Dreams

Penelope's Journal through Heart Break

I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years…and we just can’t make it work. These lyrics describe exactly how I feel… 

Because I'm broken when I'm lonesome …And I don't feel right when you're gone away…You've gone away; you don't feel me here anymore.

I’m so depressed. I lost trust and my ability to put hope in my future. I’m holding on to him…. I can’t accept it… It’s not over…. I don’t feel right…come back.

I tried so hard and I gave the relationship everything I had… I gave him my all and I lost myself in the process.  My fears overcame me… I’m drowning in suspicion… Will I ever break free? Is there a way out of this hell I’m in? I can’t breathe… I’m suffocating. Come back….


What about our dreams? What about our hopes and plans for a family? It's all shattered... 


I'm hearting myself trying to put this back together... should I leave it broken... 

Billy....

How will my heart heal when it knows only you…. You can’t take my pain away… are you in pain,,, I love you and I always will … I don’t feel right when you’re gone away….My love my angel give me your pain…. I miss you….

I’m so open I’m bleeding… dying inside…. God help me….

I want to breathe again.... I need to let go of these dreams... 

Dear God....

Please give me the strength to let go, help me to love again, dream again... I know this to shall pass... See me through... Fill the voids in my heart.... Help me not to focus on my disappointments... Give me the courage I need to feel and grieve so I can find out what will make me really happy... I know you can heal my broken heart ... but I need to give you all the pieces.... am I ready.... make me ready... Heal my shattered dreams.... 

50 Thousand Tears

Terry’s Reflections

I can’t keep going under… I offered no resistance…. I thought...Should I fight, scream, shout stop…. Will it work?

You’re so aggressive… I felt powerless… You were crazed… Inside I said stop… I opened my mouth and nothing came out… I think you thought I was okay with everything…. I was confusing the thoughts in my head…. And I can’t trust myself ….

Was I raped? I didn’t fight back!!!!!!

A Moment w/Coach

Many people like Terry feel this way when they get raped. They become confused about what to do. There in shock. Abuse can happen suddenly...Terry was intimidated by her abusers size. He was bigger than her. So she played possum. When she did that... she started think she was saying yes... In fact she was just surviving. She had no where to run, hide and no one would have heard her screams... so she had to submit... Her submission didn't mean consent....

Each time the abuse happened to Terry...another piece of her died. She's working hard to regain her Identity and Power .

She's using  Going Under to help her regain her power to confront her abuser...

A Bitter Sinking Feeling

Dear Wayward One….

You don’t have to feel condemned any more…. You’re in me now… let go… your free. I shed my skin for you…I gave you my best because I love you. Keep your faith so I can remain close to you…When you sink I will reach for your hand… will you reach back?

No one can hold your past against you… I don’t…I’ve forgiven you…Have you? I give you rest for your soul and spirit... I know what you need...I made you. I held you in my arms my “Wayward One”. I’m ready for you…

The world might condemn you I don’t… I’ve ruled in your favor… You have peace …just receive it. If you’re rejected… I will accept you… If they hate you… I will love you… Stop running from what you want… You don’t belong there… you belong with me… Come Home

                                                                       GOD

A Bitter Sinking Feeling

Dear Wayward One….

You don’t have to feel condemned any more…. You’re in me now… let go… your free. I shed my skin for you…I gave you my best because I love you. Keep your faith so I can remain close to you…When you sink I will reach for your hand… will you reach back?

No one can hold your past against you… I don’t…I’ve forgiven you…Have you? I give you rest for your soul and spirit... I know what you need...I made you. I held you in my arms my “Wayward One”. I’m ready for you…

The world might condemn you I don’t… I’ve ruled in your favor… You have peace …just receive it. If you’re rejected… I will accept you… If they hate you… I will love you… Stop running from what you want… You don’t belong there… you belong with me… Come Home

                                                                       GOD

Maybe I'll wake up

Don't want your hand this time - I'll save myself

We discussed this lyric in group today…. And it was enlightening… I realized that I needed to learn how to set healthy boundaries in my relationships. This last relationship I was in fractured me… I lost who I was and I’m realizing I need to get her back…

I use to be fun… open and full of life… but he drained it away from me and I let him… I’m to blame… I kept giving when I should have stopped…. He used me and I lost myself…. He couldn’t handle my love…

I want under b/c I gave into his moods and anger…. abusiveness… I thought my love would fix him… I just made him worse…

I've got to break through…. How?... I died again… 

Bring me to life...I'm living a lie...

Breathe into and make me real… Bring me to Life

Mary’s Dairy

It’s astonishing how fear and anxiety can change my personality. It can make me feel so powerless and weak. It can cause me to stay in situations that are unsafe; it prevents me from taking healthy risks to improve my life.  If I allow fear and anxiety to win over me I’m going to stay frozen in time…. Frozen in this relationship…

I’m allowing fear to block me from living my dreams; it’s growing bigger than my confidence. My worry doesn’t allow me to realize the reality I’m keeping myself in. I need to learn how to see my panic and fear as a challenge to push through it…. Every time I get out of the boat I sink b/c I lose sight of my faith… I take my eyes of the truth…

I need God to breathe life into my numbness. I need courage… I need strength b/c each day I feeling like a part of me is dying… I need God to reach down and pull me out of my misery… I need to learn how to rely on my faith so my fears will starve to death….

Today I decided to get my life back… to face my fears and rid myself of my excuses. I’m going to face him… and God will give me courage and nerve to see me through… I’m not going under. I’m special and I won’t let intimation or browbeating, daunting or terrorizing get me down… Enough…. Enough of the isolation, and imagination…

I’m getting myself back… Fear has stolen so much from me…. I’m not going to let it anymore…Wake me up… I’m done living a lie…. Bring me to Life…..

I've been so hollow...inside ~Pt1

Gina’s Dairy

I have to make a decision to deal with my pain. I feel so isolated and cold. I feel nothing. I’m numb inside. I want to cry but nothing comes out.  It’s been this way for so long. I’m letting you pull me down…. Though you’re gone…. It’s like you’re still here.

I did so many things that I didn't want you to do... hoping you would just go away... but you didn't... you haunt me. 

I keep all this buried inside. I can't move.... I'm stuck in time. Isolated.. Broken... Free me... I want to feel again.. I want to love again but you haunt me. I scream but nothing comes out... I let you why.... I was to young to know.... One day... maybe I can live again... 

Evanescence

Something Had to Be Done

When I first hear this song I was reminded of what Jesus did for me… for us. He gave me life. He gave me an opportunity to turn my life around.  

The wind is blowing cold…..Have we lost our way tonight?... Have we lost our hope to sorrow?

Jesus binds up our broken hearts and he sets us free from ourselves. He is hope, He is reconciliation, he is the great I Am. We all lose our way . Just like the wayward one.  We need a power greater than ourselves to restore our lives... to restore us to sanity. 

Are we every going to change... Can we stop the blood from running?

Something had to be done... Jesus took the punishment for me and you... we can't stop the blood from running over. Jesus knew all the pain we can inflict on each other, may it be physical, emotional or mental. Thats why he went to the cross. To end our suffering... Our time is running out, we need a better way... 

The wind is blowing cold

Have we lost our way tonight?

Have we lost our hope to sorrow?

Feels like we're all alone

Running further from what's right

And there are no more heroes to follow

So what are we becoming?

Where did we go wrong?

[Chorus:]

Yeah, oh yeah

I want to rise today

And change this world

Yeah, oh yeah

Oh, won't you rise today

And change this world?

The sun is beating down

Are we ever gonna change

Can we stop the blood from running?

Our time is running out

Hope we find a better way

Before we find we're left with nothing

For every life that's taken

So much love is wasted

[Chorus:]

Yeah, oh yeah

I want to rise today

And change this world

Yeah, oh yeah

So won't you rise today

And change

This world

Only love can set it right

This world

If only peace would never die

Seems to me that we've got each other wrong

Was the enemy just your brother all along?

[Chorus:]

Yeah, oh yeah

I want to rise today

And change this world

Yeah, oh yeah

Oh won't you rise today

And change this world?

Yeah, oh yeah

I want to rise today

And change this world

Yeah, oh yeah

I want to rise today

And change this world

Dedicated to Alter Bridge

Your music draws me closer to God

~ Michael, PhDc, MS, Certified Life Strategy Coach
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